Sunday, December 13, 2015
JSL
Thursday, December 10, 2015
The End Of Teenagers.
Sunday, December 6, 2015
TTYL.
Just Call.
Back to my wonderful talent. I believe that the reason I have developed this skill is because people are used to getting information quickly. Whenever we are in an area of low service connection or no wifi, you would think the world was coming to and end. That reaction is something that I am guilty of as well, a long with many of my peers. Our greatest talents may be viewed as one of our greatest weaknesses if you think about it. However, there are some days where the dizziness of the rapid information flooding my brain forces me to take a step back from it all. There have been many instances where I would rather sit and talk on the phone all day long with one person, or have a close friend over to actually speak to one another then be constantly connected to everyone at once. Actually talking to some is so important and so valuable that I fear that with every passing day it is slipping away with the society I see around me. Although I see people becoming more and more engulfed in their phones every day, I do believe that I am not the only one out there that sees the importance in talking. The call app in our phones is not something that everyone has forgotten about.
Up On the Housetop.
Sunday, November 22, 2015
Sad emoji.
Sharks.
Wolves.
Thursday, November 19, 2015
Decisions.
Sunday, November 15, 2015
Leadership.
In presidential elections, candidates run on a platform of change. As my government teacher always says,"No one will vote for someone, if their platform is that they are gonna run the country just like the last guy did." Their logos revolve all around the ideas of 'reform' and 'change' because that is what people want to do when they are put in charge. When one is given a leadership role their goal is to make things better than they were. If they only want the position for the title, they will not be a well liked leader because change is what people expect.
Because we live in a democratic society, people usually elect their leaders. There are also plenty of situations where people with leadership qualities rise to the top because of the situations they are presented with need someone to take charge. However, these individuals have less stress placed on them from others, because no one elected them, but they may place expectations on themselves.
As someone who has recently been elected to be in a leadership role, I can tell you it is extremely honoring and humbling, It was also very nerve-racking, because I have recently been struggling with balancing all of the things on my schedule I have this year, how will I be able to manage a whole team next year? I am no president, but there were so many things that came to my mind revolving around change and what I myself could do to better the team. How could I pass up this opportunity? I see myself as a rather out going and personable person and I want people to remember me for that, so what better opportunity to do that than accept my elected position as a captain of the Swimming and Diving team at Kennedy High School.
My name is Jayden Lovell and I approve this message.
Worth.
There are many words and phrases that are used now that have lost all meaning to the people who are saying them, and unfortunately, some of us do not realize when people do not mean it. I high school, there are many people who say things without meaning it, but there are also many who are deceived by the untrue words of others. What bothers me the most though, is that when the ones who believed the words of others find out that they were lies, the state of that person is the compromised. They stop trusting people, and begin to question everything. The statement "worth it" in my opinion is the worst of all things someone could lie about because you make the person you said it to doubt that they ever were really worth it.
I cannot caution high school students enough about how many things people will say to them that they do not mean. Even though going through high school questioning everything is not the ideal scenario, I am telling you now it is a lot better than how you would feel after finding out someone who you have trusted as just been lying to you, or they changed their mind about you. As you roam the halls of your high school, creating acquaintances and hopefully some good friends, please be cautious of what you say to others. Understand that things happen and feelings change so do not promise someone something unless you are positively certain you mean it and nothing will change your opinion. Say what you mean and mean what you say. In other words, think before you speak. Words are worth thinking about before you say them. This situation will happen to you, it happens to a lot of people because there are a whole lot of people who are just fantastic people, but just start laughing and get over it. Ones who lie to you are never worth your time.
JSL
Saturday, November 14, 2015
Passion.
JSL
Sunday, November 8, 2015
Important People.
Yes. Of course. Why is that even surprising?
It blows my mind how many individuals are shocked when they hear that piece of information about myself. To be completely honest, it is hard sometimes, especially when I do something that I know will disappoint her, or other times when she feels the need to assist in my person struggles I face in high school, but I do not intend to stop informing her about what I am going through. I feel as if a lot of high school students do not want to tell their parents anything because of the privacy they think they are entitled to, or the fear of disappointment they think they will receive, or the fact that no one else does. Honestly, I would recommend letting your parents in on everything, they have been in high school before, they survived. They may have not been in the exact same situations you have been going through, but that does not mean that they do not know anything about high school, odds are that they know more than you give them credit for. If anything, they will be there for you to vent to and even cry to when you need them. Their opinion on how to handle any situation you are put in is probably better than your knee-jerk reaction to it, because they have the mental capacity of an adult, they can tell you the best way to handle it maturely.
Other than them being able to give you advice and sympathize with you, telling your parents everything gives you a moral compass. I believe that it makes you think twice about decisions you are making because you question what your parents would think of which one you would make. This is not a bad thing. If your parents only want what is best for you, then thinking of them in places where you could yourself into a sticky situation, would benefit you. Why would one want to learn lessons the hard way if they do not have to? Stay on good terms with your parents kids, laugh at their jokes and attempts at selfies, and maybe they will help pay for college.
JSL
Selection.
Condescension.
Buttons.
Buttons are made when a situation happens that makes a certain subject, difficult for one to talk about. For some, when someone pushes their buttons, they become enraged and can be very vocal about whatever instance or idea was brought up. For others, the subject which was under the button pressed was something very saddening for that person and they become very distant. Regardless, with any button that was pressed, it typically ruins that individual's day. The people who go out and purposely try to press people's buttons, are terrible people. They have no idea what kind of day that person has had, and even if they think they did, what right do they have to attempt to ruin their mood?
However, buttons can be pressed by accident. For example, when arguments arise between two people, specific buttons are found to directly hurt a person, and often, these buttons have cobwebs and have been left alone for a while, making them hurt more when they are pressed. Another time that this happens is when friends are joking around. Things are brought up that are truly intended to be laughed over, but sometimes press buttons that one did not realize had been formed.
Now if someone pressed one of your buttons unintentionally, it is important to forgive them quickly. In most cases, they will feel awful for doing anything to upset you, and deserved to be forgiven. But in other cases, where they intentionally press certain buttons to make you upset, they have no room to be in your daily life. Buttons are formed all the time, but in order to protect yourself from button-pressers, try to get over situations as quickly as possible. Everyone has buttons, so know that it is okay if someone presses some of yours, and also be aware of what you say to others. Be sure to reference my post on sensitivity regarding that whole situation though.
Maturity.
Maturity is an ever-changing state of being. I do not believe that someone is ever considered to be completely mature. I think that one can be mature in instances they are faced with, or grow to be more mature than they once were, but being mature is something that I do not think is something one obtains. There are certain things though, with which we must all strive to do in life.
One thing we must attempt to do is not care about the opinion of others. I do believe that we should all care a little bit, because you should always be questioning your character, but in regards to the individuals who spread false statements, one should think little of them. The saying "take it with a grain of salt" is something everyone, especially in high school, should go through life saying to themselves. There are certain opinions with which you should care about, employers, teachers, parents, the ones who will not make things up about you. The others' opinions, you should take very lightly and try to not think twice about them. As I said, maturity is something you will always aim for, so not caring is something that is very difficult in high school. Especially with the introduction of social media and whispers in the hall which are unavoidable. Its something to work at.
Another thing that you should work at is your character. We should not care what irrelevant others think of us when they have false information, but if we are constantly working at making ourselves better people, improving our character, hopefully they will have less to taunt you with. To improve your character, you must first establish your personal morals and what you stand for, which can be a whole other process itself. This is what I believe a lot of people are attempting to do in high school, find what they want to support, and what things they think are not okay. Who you really are as a person, is what you should concentrate on, not what others say. Those that I mentioned earlier, the ones whose opinions you should care about, are the ones who will not make up things about you and look at who you are based on what they have seen you done. They have reached that point on the maturity scale. I cannot emphasize how important your character is, you are the one in control of it and you should be your biggest critic of it. After you establish who you want to be, making decisions will become so much easier to make.
Different situations require different levels of appropriateness. Something one needs to work on when attempting to be mature is knowing where the line is in the situations they are presented with. Some may call it "having a filter", but knowing what is and is not okay to say in certain interactions is a big step in maturity.
Overall, if someone is actively attempting to be a better person and become more mature, they are one step ahead of everyone around them that are not. These people are few and far between in high school in my opinion, but that should not stop you from attempting to be one.
JSL
Sunday, November 1, 2015
Popularity.
In order for the term "popular" to have a meaning, a person, a group, a goal in mind has to be labeled as something you want to be or fit into. Some may think that the more friends you have makes you popular. Others may think its the specific group of friends you have. Yet, others still may think that it is the number of parties you get invited to. It is different for everyone. Whatever the definition of it is for you, try to not give it much thought. As an upperclassmen, something that I can tell freshmen to look forward to is that with the more experiences you have in high school, the less and less you will care about what others have to say about you. And the few friends you may have, are most likely some of the best people you will ever meet and are way better than a huge group of them.
When you enter as a freshmen, do not change yourself to fit into the groups you want to be in, make your own group. Allow the natural forces to bring good people towards you, and stick with them. "Popularity" is something we all aim for at some point in our lives, but the sooner you realize that it is irrelevant in your high school career the better off you will be.
JSL
Weeds.
There are numerous things in high school that can be compared to weeds, bad scores on tests that haunt you at the end of the term, the dumb decision you made at a party, the last guy you dated or talked to, rumors that refuse to die. When any of these things bud once again, it tends to ruin your day. Some are able to take it like a grain of salt, pull it out, and keep on gardening. Others, including myself, tend to dwell on these things and allow it to damper the beauty of your flowers. Even after it is pulled out, the hole where it was rooted is a constant reminder for the rest of the day that it was there. People were talking about it, and it is never a good feeling knowing that others were speaking of you behind your back and it was not in the best light. Often, these weeds come up because they are the tool of some individuals to drain your day, your pretty flowers of their colors.
I picture something like this:
Your neighbor sees you hard at work on your magnificent garden. They turn around and look at theirs to see that it is okay, nothing too spectacular but not too shabby. Then suddenly. they see the green on their thumb spreading, up their arms until they are engulfed in the green of envy. They want your garden, but they can not have it. Faced with this dilemma, they think of the next best solution, if they can not have your garden, they will ruin yours until theirs is better by comparison. Not wanting to be caught red-handed, they think of ways that will slowly eat away at your garden's beauty. Weeds. Tossing them over the fence every time they get a chance. The next thing your neighbor does is they sit back and watch the destruction take place.
This is what people in high school are doing when they bring up things from their past. They just want to ruin your day, ruin the image others have of you in their mind. Do not let them. Just pull out those weeds, and continue on. Now as badly as you may want to throw them back over the fence, it is probably not worth it. Be the bigger person, their garden is probably pitiful in comparison anyways and they need all the help they can get.
JSL
How to treat bad people.
How are we supposed to treat these masked people? Situations will arise when people tell you of what someone said about you, usually to cause drama, but then you can see the outline of the mask of that particular person. The conscience in the back of my brain that I never want to listen to in these situations is telling me to "shower them in kindness". On the other hand, my first instinct is to give them my best glare from across the room and make sure they feel terrible about what they have done. I am here to inform you of how poorly that technique works. The masked individuals, once you can see their actual faces are hungry for drama and the knee-jerk reaction you give them is what they want. Ultimately, the best way to handle a situation where you learn of someone speaking poorly of you is to just start laughing, and feel bad for them. The reason you should feel bad for them is because they were jealous of you, or were bored with their own lives and not focusing on more important things.
But when is something someone has done or said to others too hurtful to do everything you can to distance yourself with them. If something one has done to you or your reputation that is that terrible, my only recommendation is that you act civil and avoid the reaction they want from you. Hopefully they will move on, find a new hobby, like knitting.
There are many derogatory names girls get called behind their backs. "Flirts" and "Teases" being amongst them. I think these are the worst labels you could give a person. Calling an individual one of these names is not only damaging their character as seen by others when one speaking of someone who way, but it is directly tarnishing the way someone is. Often, these girls may just be energetic and fun people, who like to and are able to socialize. Once these girls find out about these false allegations about themselves being passed from one of their peers to the next, what are they to do? Stop being themselves? Start acting reserved and antisocial? Personally, when I hear about a rumor spreading about me I do my best to prove them wrong in whatever it is. However, in this situation there is no right way to handle it. Doing the right thing and showering the person speaking ill of you only justifies their rumor of you being a flirt, because they are too immature to be able to tell the difference.
Rumors suck.
Luckily, in high school we are blessed to be around immature people all day who just love to spread them. What a joy. regardless of what others think of you, do not let it change you as a person. Not everyone will have something bad to say about you, even if it may feel that way. Stick through it, just be nice, and keep on laughing because you can.
JSL
Sunday, October 25, 2015
Impacts.
“To the whole world you might be just one person, but to one person you might just be the whole world.” -Pablo Casals
You may be told by adults that just one person can make a difference in the world. Although true, this doesn’t mean that everyone will make a worldwide impact. Not everyone can be a world leader or prime minister. There was only one Napoleon Bonaparte, one Genghis Khan, and only one Bill Gates. The average person rarely makes an impact upon their cities or country, let alone the whole world. But did any of those people really change your world? They may have changed history and could be the reason you live your life a certain way, but did any of those people make you feel love, pain, or happiness? Think about it. Who makes a bigger impact on your life, your friends and family or a leader of another country? Although your life could be altered by an important figure far away from you, your everyday life is changed by those around you. That cute boy you bumped into and shared a smile with today could make you think more than a foreign policy made by a European politician. I’m not saying that what the politician did wasn’t important or that it didn’t change hundreds of people’s lives, but your world wasn’t changed.
Although you may not be in a position of power or have a lot of influence on the world, that doesn’t mean you should brush off the idea that you don’t make an impact on the world. You may not make a difference globally, but you can change someone’s world.
When you were born, you had already made an impact on your family’s life, even without being able to speak a word. Ever since then, every action and every thought made a difference in someone’s life, including your own. So why not make it a positive difference? Instead of brushing someone off when they try to have a conversation, why not give them a few minutes of your time and have a conversation with them? Don’t ignore the girl whose papers fell on the floor, all you have to do is pick a few papers up for her and be on your way.
In that same sense, don’t go through life not committing fully to relationships, whether it be relationships with family, friends, or even a significant other. Spend time with your family, love them and take time to talk to them everyday. With your friends, help them through anything you can. Be there for them through thick and thin, don’t shy away from helping them just because it inconveniences you. Take relationships seriously. Don’t shy away from a date because it means you’re risking something. Take that risk, even if it means you could get hurt or people would start talking. You owe yourself the chance to be happy with someone and to love them. If you’re already with someone, don’t take a single second for granted. Enjoy every single happy, sad, angry, or frustrating moment with them. Love them with all of your heart if it feels right, don’t be afraid of being left behind or hurt. Change someone’s world for the better and they might just change yours at the same time.
Sunday, October 18, 2015
Anatomy.
Privacy.
Choices in general, regardless of peer pressure, are made by that individual alone. Whether the choice they made was the right one or not, is not up for me to determine. As I have stated before, judging is something we all do, and I attempt to refrain from it, but it is really difficult to prevent myself from judging when people post their decisions, practically presenting it on a silver platter for everyone to take an opinion on. Some may say that they do not care about the judgment of others, kudos to them. But I would want to hear them say that again if I were to let them know that the parents of their friends were able to see what they post. Or be able to see them after being questioned on a decision they made now, in a few years when they are being hired for a job.
The fact that my generation will not hesitate to post things on social media, but then hesitate when their parents ask to see their phone bewilders me.
JSL
Sunday, October 11, 2015
Why you can not be nice.
Thursday, October 8, 2015
Teachers.
Now one thing to remember about judging your teacher, they are individuals too. they have a life outside of teaching, and most importantly they might not like you either, but hopefully, they will be mature and you will never know that you are one of their least favorites. Everyone has bad days, including them, and as much as it seems to be the right thing to do when you wish to arrogantly point out where they are wrong, it is probably not a good idea. In some of these cases, with the teachers who are not at their maturity level yet, this may end up in your grade suffering.
There are many things that may cause your disdain for the teacher; such as harsh grading policies, monotone speakers, too much homework, inflexibility. All of which can make your life less stressful if they would be removed. Those rainbows that I spoke of earlier are the ones who make you dislike other teachers more because, as humans, we constantly compare things, including other humans. The rainbows that dazzle up your depressing days really get us through high school. In my opinion, most (not all) teachers strive to be a rainbow, but some try too hard and get judged for going "over the top". Some teachers may have already tried to be a rainbow, but they let the student clouds block their sunshine, and by the time you have them as a teacher they have just given up on trying to please everyone. Which I believe is a real act of maturity which we should all strive for.
Regardless of how many clouds and rainbows you have throughout your day, realize that you have to suck up to all of them. Do what they tell you to do, do not back sass, and know that they are the ones who will aid you into the next stage of your life.
Sunday, October 4, 2015
Family.
In my opinion, the extra curricular activities are what makes students have pride in their school. Of course, academics come first, and it is always nice to know that you are getting a great education, even without an outdated banner to prove it. Cougar Nation, would not be a nation without the sports it cheers on. The foot ball team refer to themselves as a "family", and while some people make fun of them for it, I fully support the idea behind it, and it must be working for them, we are 6-0. No matter what sport you are in, knowing that you have your own personal fan club of peers behind you makes people better people in my opinion. Everyone has their own interest, whether it is a specific sport or show choir, and as a school, we should be supportive of each other in every aspect, regardless if you have the same passion. I believe that Kennedy High School has many families, which, in turn, creates a larger one that we are all apart of. Many of us will not go on to do the things we feel so passionately about now, after college, and our time is running out to do the things we love. While in high school, some of the fondest memories I feel as if most will remember, are the ones where they are cheering their school on. Having the biggest student section at football games, standing ovations at plays, making it all they way to the well in basketball, having a show choir ballad bring you to tears. These are just some examples. When speaking about any sport, whether I am or am not involved, I use possessive articles when referring to Kennedy "We are 6-0." "Our swimming team won last night." So even if you are not involved in any extra activities at Kennedy, (even though I would strongly recommend it, there is so many things to choose from) do not be afraid to support the people who are involved. They are not just playing for themselves, they are playing for the school, for us, our family. It bewilders me to see people making fun of that. All we want to do as high school students is to be a part of something, to feel included. It does not always have to be exclusive. Those are the ones who make me just start laughing because they are the ones who are missing out.
Thursday, October 1, 2015
How To Go Far In Life.
Politeness.
Some have never heard of it, some think it is an urban legend only old geezers believe in, but I am here to confirm the rumors. Politeness is in fact, a real thing. Many across the land have long forgotten about this gem of a personality trait and it has been lost in the layers of generations that have neglected to recognize its beauty. Now we must mine deep in ourselves to find what will solve a lot of our problems. Here are some ideas that will help you make the world a better place and will make you feel like a better person:
Holding the door open for someone
Smiling
Laughing at someone's jokes
Supporting someone's opinions
Know where the line is
Know that not everyone has a thick skin
And here are some things some may call "don'ts"
Do not ignore people
Do not purposely make someone feel lesser of themselves
Do not criticize one's opinion
Do not fail to read the body language of someone
Now these are just a few minor suggestions, and they may be difficult for some, especially those who have never heard of the crazy idea of "politeness". Politeness will take you far in life, and solve many problems, I would say you would have 99 that it would solve and the one left over would be solved by growing thicker skin. In high school, sensitivity is something that can not be taken lightly. There are subjects you have to be very careful when referring to them among certain individuals. It seems as though the topics you can have a conversation on with others is narrowing every day. Some people, choose to disregard other's sensitivity and just speak their mind, not seeing and or caring about the feelings they hurt. Which goes along with the politeness characteristic they lack. However, you cannot be overly sensitive and not allow people to speak their mind around you. Having a "thick skin" is a must in surviving what high school throws at you. Of the problems high school presents you, imaginary ones made up in your head will make up the most of them. In all reality, you should not lose sleep over the majority of them. It all situations, regardless of where you are or who you are with, you can always make the most your time by finding the politeness I am confident we all have, no matter how buried it may be. That is how you will go far in all aspects of your life.
JSL
Thursday, September 24, 2015
PDA.
JSL
Sunday, September 20, 2015
Consequences.
JSL
Saturday, September 19, 2015
Pressure.
If all else fails, just start laughing.
JSL
Friday, September 18, 2015
School Dances.
The best and worst nightmares of high school kids across the nation. Much like the terrifying team-picking at recess in elementary, high school dances cause the nerves and self doubt to arise in many teens. Thanks to the vast array of hormones being produced within our bodies, dances have the power to make or break our whole high school experience. However, when executed correctly, dances are able to stand out as the some of the best memories made in high school.
The couples are the ones who cause the most self-inflicted stress about ourselves. Questions such as, "Why am I not good enough?" "Is it because I don't look like her." emerge out of thin air. Or for others, the more fortunate, yet not better off stress related, worry about the wrong person asking them. "Does he think I like him?" "Will others think so?" "Oh no, I wanted someone else to ask but I can't say no." Coming from a female perspective, I believe that guys, in theory, are less stressed when asking the girl to the dance. There seem to be next to no circumstances where the answer is no. The again, as a sometimes over confident person, this may be inaccurate. Once the extravagant plan has been made on how you ask someone to a dance, which gets to be more and more elaborate every year, (mainly for social media purposes) the stress on attire emerges. If you are close with the individual you are going with, it would be easier for them. On the other hand, telling someone what you want them to wear is always difficult to word without coming across bossy. No matter the dance, Homecoming, WPA, Saddie Hawkins, Prom, the female typically determines the color and what clothing the male wears. Usually the female has her dress before she even gets asked, because the guys seem to wait longer and longer until they pop the question, and has already envisioned what she wants him to wear. This is where the conversation sometimes seems to be walking a thin line because, dress clothes are not cheap. The dance itself is a whole other cause to fret. Groups of friends get mixed up due to dates and different friends, and dinner reservations always need to be made before anyone knows who they are going with. The day of the dance you can find every spa in town full of girls in line to compete for the "prettiest" on of the night. In my opinion though "prettiest"is a relative term and you should be the best in your date's eyes regardless. The day continues and pictures start popping up on all instagram, snapchat, twitter, everywhere. Cute couple pictures mixed with the awkward "I barely even know this person I am still not sure why they asked me but I feel obligated to post a picture because we took them and I look really good" pictures which everyone has to like. Everything is seems to be a competition, but what in high school isn't?
JSL